The Djedi Dojo's Path of Eros
THE PLEASURE DOJO
PLEASURE IS NOT SIMPLY SOMETHING YOU EXPERIENCE.
IT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN LEARN TO INHABIT.
The Pleasure Dojo is a path of embodied practice for people ready to develop a more conscious relationship with pleasure, desire, intimacy, consent and erotic truth.
This work invites you to love your body, release shame, reclaim your life force, deepen emotional intelligence and become more capable of saying what you actually want.
The Practice
WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE?
Love your body so that so that you can inhabit your life more fully.
Release shame so that so that desire can become information rather than something you hide from.
Develop consent as a felt sense so that so that your yes, your no and your maybe become clearer.
Reclaim pleasure so that so that more of your vitality and life force become available to you.
Explore your erotic truth so that so that intimacy can become more honest.
Say what you want so that so that you stop requiring other people to guess.
Meet kink and shadow with curiosity so that so that hidden parts of yourself can be approached with greater consciousness rather than shame.
The Framework
THE E.R.O.S. PRACTICE
E.R.O.S. is one of the organizing practices of the Pleasure Dojo.
EMBODY DESIRE
Learn to recognize desire in the body so that desire becomes information rather than something you automatically suppress or obey.
RECLAIM PLEASURE
Develop your capacity for pleasure so that more vitality, sensation and aliveness become available.
OWN YOUR EROTIC TRUTH
Meet what is actually true for you so that shame has less power over your choices.
SAY WHAT YOU WANT
Practice giving language to desire, boundaries and choice so that intimacy can become clearer and more honest.
Inside the Pleasure Dojo
WAYS WE PRACTICE
Workshop
The Art and Practice of Pleasure Alchemy
Deepening emotional intelligence through rituals and sensual somatics.
Pleasure Alchemy explores the relationship among sensation, emotion, ritual, connection and pleasure. Through embodied practice, participants develop greater awareness of what they feel, what they want and how they meet themselves and others.
Esalen Institute
Big Sur, California
December 21–25, 2026
Exploration
Erotic Noir
Bringing Light to Kink and Shadow
An exploration of the places desire becomes complicated, hidden, taboo or charged. Erotic Noir creates a structured environment for curiosity, de-shaming, discernment and conscious exploration of kink and erotic shadow.
Private Session
The E.R.O.S. Reset + The Spark
The E.R.O.S. Reset
For individuals
The Spark
For couples
3-hour private entry experience
$333
A private embodied exploration for people who want greater clarity around pleasure, desire, intimacy, aliveness and what is asking to emerge next.
Foundation
THE ROOTS OF THE WORK
The Pleasure Dojo draws from decades of embodied practice and study, including modern Tantra, sacred sexuality, somatic practice, sensual ritual, sexual healing, de-shaming, energy practice and the conscious exploration of kink and shadow.
The purpose is not to create another sexual identity to perform.
The practice is learning to become more capable of inhabiting your body, recognizing your own signal, meeting desire consciously and relating to others with greater presence, consent and integrity.
The Foundation
BEFORE YOU LEARN TO HOLD THE WORK,
LEARN TO KNOW THE INSTRUMENT.
The practitioner is the instrument.
Every Pleasure Dojo practitioner begins with the foundational Djedi Dojo initiation: I AM.
I AM is a 90-day initiation into embodied presence, energetic perception, discernment, responsibility and practice. It includes Reiki I–III.
Participants who know they are interested in the Pleasure Dojo path identify that intention when they enroll in I AM.
Tuition
$1,111 per 90-day season
or 3 payments of $444
or 4 payments of $333
Equity scholarships available.
Current Cohorts
Berkeley Hills · November 2026
Exact address provided upon registration.
Evanston · November 2026
Apply for I AMThe Facilitator Path
PLEASURE DOJO TRAINING
The Facilitator Path
For participants called to move beyond personal practice and learn to facilitate this work with others, Pleasure Dojo Training is the final training path within the Pleasure Dojo.
The training builds on the I AM foundation and develops greater capacity around facilitation, embodiment, consent, pleasure, erotic intelligence, ritual, energetic awareness, group process and responsible stewardship of the work.
Founding Cohort
✦ November 2026
✦ 90 Days
✦ Hybrid: In-Person + Zoom
✦ 12 Seats
✦ Adults 18+
Applications are reviewed before scheduling calls. The private application-call link is shared after Tony reviews your inquiry.
The Larger Path
THE PATH
01
DJEDI DOJO: I AM
90-Day Initiation
Reiki I–III
Become the instrument.
02
THE PLEASURE DOJO
Develop your relationship with pleasure, desire, embodiment, consent and erotic truth.
03
PLEASURE DOJO TRAINING
The facilitator path.
04
THE DJEDI COUNCIL
Graduates may become eligible for consideration for the Djedi Council.
Council membership is not automatic.
05
OPEN A PLEASURE DOJO
Djedi Council members may eventually go on to open and lead a Pleasure Dojo within their own community.
Free · Live on Zoom
ENTER THE PLEASURE DOJO
Free Open Circles
You do not have to understand the Pleasure Dojo before you enter it.
Come experience the practice.
Explore embodiment, pleasure, desire, consent, energetic awareness and self-knowledge in a live introductory circle with Tony Holmes.
Wednesday
October 21, 2026
7:30–9:00 PM Central
5:30–7:00 PM Pacific
Thursday
October 29, 2026
7:30–9:00 PM Central
5:30–7:00 PM Pacific
Adults 18+
Your Guide
TONY HOLMES
The Love Warrior · He/They
Tony Holmes is the founder of The Love Warrior, the Djedi Dojo Institute and the Pleasure Dojo. He has spent more than three decades working at the intersection of embodiment, intimacy, sacred sexuality, somatic practice, ritual, leadership and human transformation.
He is an Esalen Institute faculty member, HAI Global facilitator, trained mediator, yoga therapist, shamanic massage practitioner and somatic bodywork practitioner.
"You were never meant to perform a life.
You were meant to embody one."
Questions
FREQUENTLY ASKED
WHAT IS YOUR BODY ASKING YOU TO KNOW?
You do not have to have the answer.
The practice begins by becoming willing to listen.
The Pleasure Dojo is a path of embodied, relational and spiritual practice. It is not psychotherapy, medical treatment or clinical sex therapy and does not confer a clinical credential or professional license. Participation is for adults 18+.